Attributes I Wanted in a Husband

Over 5 years ago, I finally sat down with my journal and wrote this VERY list of the top attributes I wanted in a husband. My son suggested I do this. I'm so glad he did, because once I wrote it down the blinders were lifted and I could clearly see what was important to me. NO MORE COMPROMISE!  When I think of a lot of my relationships or dates, they were mainly me compromising and accepting these guys 'as they are' but they weren't what I really wanted.

I suggest everyone does this - it's your roadmap to a successful relationship. And lo and behold, within a year of writing this out, God answered my unspoken prayer and sent me Roland. A lot of people meet him and wonder about him because he's so quiet. But rest assure - he is this list!!  I love him sooo much!


Here's the top attributes on my list:

1. he cannot be addicted to alcohol or drugs, recovering or active. It's preferred that he can go out to dinner or a party, have a drink and be socialable. No judgement on me because I have a drink.
2. he has to have a career. I do, so should he.
3. he has to have a retirement plan. Hey, I'm not getting any younger!! I want to know that I am not going to be stuck working until the day I die! Not only does he have to have a plan for the future, he has to have money saved so that it can come to fruition.
4. he has to love my kids, even though they are grown up and may/may not live with us. First and foremost, I will ALWAYS BE A PARENT!!
5. he has to have his own place to live - apartment, condo or house, I don't care. He CANNOT live at home with his parent(s), unless it's due to parental illness or some other extenuating circumstances that is beneficial to the parent(s).
6. he must have a creative outlet - play an instrument, love music, movies, and art, paint, draw, read books, even playing video games is acceptable. However, the creative outlet can't be the only thing they do!! i.e. if they are a non-working musician they have to have another job. 
7. he has to know how to clean up after himself, can't be a slob, know how to do the dishes, laundry, clean the house.
8. he has to be handy around the house, general maintenance, lawn care, house care.
9. he has to like to eat a variety of fresh fruits and vegetables. I am a vegetarian that eats fish (sometimes grilled chicken) and I cook some very interesting dishes. He has to be adventurous with his diet and willing to try new things as I find them. He has to like to try new restaurants and ethnic food.
10. he has to LOVE THE OUTDOORS! I do and I can't fathom my life without being outside. I love to camp, I love to visit the mountains, tne woods, streams, fields, trees, lakes, sandy beaches, anything outdoors!! I love the fresh air and the beauty of God's creation.
11. he has to have a good sense of humor, an even temperment, be able to put up with my constant need for communication, talking, writing, doing anything. He has to understand that I am an extremely outgoing person and need external stimulation of all kinds.
12. he has to like my friends. I have some neurotic friends, don't we all?? He even has to like them!! I have friends that I have had my whole life, since I was 5, 12, 21. I won't give them up for anyone.
13. he has to like sex as much as I do or more. None of this - once in a while crap, it has to be on a regular basis.
14. he has to think that I am beautiful and have a great body. Even when I don't think it's so great! I mean, I've lost 55 pounds since Sept. and am still working at it to lose more. 
15. he has to think I'm the best thing that's ever happened to him.
16. AND HE MUST LOVE ME MORE THAN I LOVE MYSELF!!

"...And in the end The love you take is equal to the love you make." ---The Beatles

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Wedding

Our wedding day was beautiful!! Everything went as planned. The ceremony, songs, readings, guests, food, weather - all perfect!! Pictures will follow.

The most important thing is that after all these years we are married!!  Bliss.

"...And in the end
The love you take
is equal to the love you make."
---The Beatles

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today is the day

still have some small but important things to take care of today. It's going to be busy but GREAT! Today we are getting married. All of my children are in town and most of my family. My friends will be there and it will be a joyous celebration - one that I've waited for my entire life.

Thank God for bringing us together at just the right time in our lives.

"...And in the end
The love you take
is equal to the love you make."
---The Beatles

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Holiday Weekend aka Wedding Weekend

I haven't had a chance to write lately because I've been so busy:

• working - kicking off a project takes a lot of time, especially this one!!
• planning the wedding - just pulling everything together, making sure we have bought everything we need. 
• planning the food for the weekend with the kids, family and friends. We have lots of activities planned for the weekend so it's gonna be a BLAST!! 
  
• Beka moved - so we helped her get settled, went shopping for her - a little early Christmas / Birthday present :)
• helping out on a friend's website - I have a dear friend who is launching a website next week but isn't technical, so I've been helping her get it ready. 
• knitting - has been last on the list, but I have to finish my beaded shawl for my company holiday party on 12/4. I only have about 15 rows to go --- I am going to find time this weekend to work on it while I'm hanging out with the girlfriends. 

I guess things will get back to normal just in time for Christmas!!

Happy Thanksgiving and here's to a WONDERFUL WEDDING ON FRIDAY!!

"...And in the end
The love you take
is equal to the love you make."
---The Beatles

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Cataract Surgery

Roland went to the surgeon this morning as a follow up to yesterday's cataract surgery. All is well, in fact the Dr. said it's all "PERFECT". I REALLY was happy to hear that!!!  He's well on the path to big success and then the right eye in December.

I love him so much and am so glad for him that it's all good.

only 16 days to the BIG day - marriage.  Ahhhh. Peace and Joy in my heart!

"...And in the end
The love you take
is equal to the love you make."
---The Beatles

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Wedding 19 days and counting :)

wow, it's coming so fast. The most important part of this whole process is having all of my kids and our entire family together to celebrate with our friends. It's going to be so much fun. I just hope it turns out as I have imagined it :) 

The good thing is that I'm really not stressed. I sort of just think it is what it is and I'm getting married!!  No matter what else happens that day - I'm getting married to my high school sweetheart after 35 years!!!!!  It's amazing and awesome.

Pictures will be coming.....I can't wait to see how big Abigail has gotten since August. And to see all my grandchildren together and all my kids - it's such a blessing. I love my children and grandchildren so much!!  And then to be marrying Roland is just the icing on the cake. I'm an truly happy.

"...And in the end
The love you take
is equal to the love you make."
---The Beatles

Thanks for reading my Heavenly Thoughts

Knitting at Starbucks

This morning I had a morning meeting with a friend, she was late, so I had time to knit while waiting. I carry my knitting with me whereever I go because I never know when I will have a few minutes to knit. I used to always be on my computer, tweet incessently, but now, when I have a minute here or there - I knit.

I'm about 15% complete with my project, it's been 11 days since I started. But in the meantime, alot has happened on the personal front and that's taken a great deal of my time away. Things "appear" to be settling down, so let's hope that I can  concentrate and finish my projects.

I'll be planning a wedding for Thanksgiving. I would like to knit a purse to carry that day - something glittery with beads. Maybe I'm not that experienced of a knitter to accomplish that, but I sure can try!!

"...And in the end
The love you take
is equal to the love you make."
---The Beatles

Thanks for reading my Heavenly Thoughts

planning a WEDDING

August 17th! We're getting married - finally, after 3 (really 33) long years!! Hawaiian theme wedding - shorts, casual :) It's gonna be "dog days" of summer in Ohio! Gotta make us comfy! Main idea: get married, enjoy ourselves, and have the best day of our lives! More details later as plans come together. I'm just so glad to set the date.

"...And in the end
The love you take
is equal to the love you make."
---The Beatles

Thanks for reading my Heavenly Thoughts

looking at wedding rings

Could it possibly be that close that it's time to ring shop? I hope so, it's been a long time waiting to get married. We've been waiting for over 2 years now, in fact, I left Cincinnati 2 years ago this weekend to come out to California to get married.

I guess it's worth the wait. We are very deeply in love with each other. We have enough love to see us through because we are happy, we trust each other, we are responsible for ourselves, we complete each other. I like that. He truly is the right person for me. Even on the days that I am not my best and my behavior is not the best - he still loves me - and vice versa.

Our dreams are compatible. Our dreams are the same. We might see things differently on the surface, but deep down we have the same values, morals, ethics, love, and goals. It's great to be with him. It's great to share with him. I love my life, I love my future husband!

Blogging Community........very original and informative

Every night I try to take a little time to check out other people's blogs. I am so amazed at how many people are blogging and what they choose to write about. And I am SURE that I've only seen a small part of the tip of the iceberg. MyBlogLog allows me access to all sorts of blogs with a variety of topics.

One thing that is a common thread, if the blog owner is pictured (as opposed to an avatar, a cartoon character, a body part, or animated gif), the blog owners are smiling. The blogosphere members of MyBlogLog seem to be a happy lot - lots of smiles and friendly people.

And the topics are as diverse as people themselves are - some are technical, product specific, personal (like mine), about pets - dogs, cats, birds, spiders....you name it, countries, cities, food, boyfriends/girlfriends, politics, school, marriage, divorce, kids, work and the list goes on and on. It's fun to read the blogs, get inside someone else's mind, experiences, and whatever else they allow.

I enjoy the blogs and will start adding my favorites here on my site. ALSO DON'T FORGET TO SCROLL ALL THE WAY DOWN TO SEE PICTURES OF THE WEDDING!!!!

Happy blogging!! But more importantly Happy Reading! I would not be a blog if no one read it....it would be "Latin"......my feeble attempt at humor past my bedtime. :)

"Here's all you need to know about men and women: Women are crazy, and men are stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid."

-- George Carlin

new Pics at Flickr

I added some new pics on Flickr, so scroll down and on the left, click on the Flickr box of pics. You'll see Jake's wedding pics, some California scenic pics and family/friends pics!!

Enjoy!