Friday, September 11, 2009


Girlfriends: they are wonderful to have, a source of comfort, support, laughter, tears, help and I don't know what I would have done without them!! I consider myself VERY fortunate to have some friends for a LONG time.

1 since Kindergarten, too many years to even say them out loud.
1 since 7 grade, 12 years old.
1 since 1977
1 since 1997
and my newest for the last 1 1/2 years

It's easy to make "acquaintances" and I have tons of them. But it's not as easy to make friends, and honestly, it's best that way. Friends have to trust each other. They know too much about the other person and frankly, some of the things they know about you, they're the only ones that do. So, it's even more important that you trust each other.

I can't imagine what my life would be without my girlfriends. It would have been a sad and lonely place, that's for sure. They have been there with me through thick & thin, good & bad relationships, child births, wine nights, lamenting about a better life, happy to be alive, celebrations, weddings, breakups, house buying, car repairs, deaths, just to name a few.

Here's the sad part - over the years, I have found it mentally healthy to do a "friend inventory". You know, you look at the girlfriends you have and ask yourself, why am I friends with them? Positive? Negative? Who benefits? Is it TRULY a friendship? What would my life look like without them? Is my friend benefitting from being my friend while being a pain in the ass to me? (And we have all had a friend like that!!) It's ok to identify who and why you're friends. And if the friendship is still warm in your heart, great. But on the other hand it's perfectly alright to cut that person out of your friend list.

So, for all you women struggling with friends that are not nice to you, talk smack, stab you in the back, use you for "something" you don't want to be used for, I advise you to take the "friend inventory". Ask the tough questions, then make your decisions based on facts, not emotions. Good luck! Hope you find you have more friends that you love than you have to cut.

"...And in the end
The love you take
is equal to the love you make."

---The Beatles

Thanks for reading my Heavenly Thoughts

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